“I’ve known you for so many years, and yet you seem to have become closer to this other newer friend more than me.”

What makes the depth of a friendship? Is the depth of a relationship to be measured by the number of years you have known each other? Or is it to be measured by the stuff you’ve done together throughout your season of knowing each other.

Neither, I think.

The depth of a relationship isn’t even to be measured by how committed you both are to the same values in life or to the same religion.

It is to measured according to how deeply committed you are to each other. When you’re committed enough to choose to trust each other, committed enough to reveal your vulnerabilities to each other, committed enough to experience what it’s like to be hurt by someone you’ve deliberately chosen to trust, you know you have a deep friendship.

Because in the final analysis, it’s not about our similarities. It’s about our appreciation of each other’s personhood.