Anti Anti-Conflict
Here's a confession I've just made to a friend who claims himself to be anti-conflict:
I tend to be anti people who're anti-conflict. My relationship with anti-conflict people tend to eventually go sour.
When asked why, this was my reply:
Because I see them as people who're self-absorbed, who're more concerned for personal stability than for the common good.
Something worth recording down for more personal reflection.
By the way, the opposite of being anti-conflict isn't being pro-conflict. It's simply being open to conflict when necessary and not avoiding it at all cost. But of course, for the anti-conflict people, all conflict is never necessary.
Comments (1)
i have a harder time being in conflict with people that have wronged me specifically. however, when i see others being wronged (or worse), i have no qualms whatsoever in diving right in.
last week at my favorite local coffee shop, we were discussing a recent incident in the news where a mother was at a car wash and her young child was acting up so she turned the high pressure water nozzle on her. there is a car wash across the parking lot from this coffee shop, and in our conversation, the owner of the coffee shop said if he saw something like that happen across the parking lot, he wouldnt intervene. i couldn't believe what i was hearing. when we are so afraid of conflict that we can't bring ourselves to come to the aid of a defenseless child, we have big problems.
Posted by dean | March 13, 2008 9:14 PM